When “Just Friends” Crosses the Line: PART 3

December 17th, 2009

Avoid Secrecy & Deception

Conditions of an emotional affair:

  • Keeping private details of the relationship from spouse.
  • Saying and doing things that wouldn’t be done in presence of spouse.
  • Sharing private thoughts and feelings with someone other than your spouse.
  • Making efforts to spend time alone with this other person.

If there is an ongoing interaction with someone with whom you have been very honest in sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings, this can generate a feeling of closeness that stimulates even more sharing. An emotional attachment quickly develops, causing serious damage to a marriage – regardless or not if it ever becomes “sexual.”

We often joke that conversation is a “woman’s need.” But conversations are what start us off on this slippery slope, for both women and men.