CAUTION: Society Pays Lip Service to Monogamy Yet Supports Infidelity

October 7th, 2009

Comedian David Letterman and his wife Regina had been dating for more than 20 years before they married last March. Letterman’s latest admittance on his show Monday Night was that his wife has been “horribly hurt” by revelations of his sexual affairs exposed in an extortion plot against him. “If you hurt a person and it’s your responsibility, you try and fix it. And at that point, there’s only two things that can happen: either you’re going to make some progress and get it fixed, or you’re going to fall short and perhaps not get it fixed. So let me tell you folks; I got my work cut out for me.”

Was that really deserving of several rounds of applause? Several moments of reverent silence would have been more appropriate.

I’m all about accountability and responsibility but I don’t know how one goes about “fixing” perhaps nearly two decades full of lies. So much pain has been caused; and who knows who might come forward with some earth-shattering allegations regarding a specific sordid, damaging sexual liaison with David Letterman. Might there one day be sexual harassment charges brought against him as the media continues to discuss the damaging manifestations of employers with power?

My sense is that Letterman will continue to have more fixin’ and ‘splainin’ to do than meets the eye. And as my clients recovering from their infidelities tell me, “It just wasn’t worth it!”

What are you doing to protect your relationship so that you never “horribly hurt” your current (or future) mate?

~Dr. Liz